THE ENEMY OF MAN (ABRAHAM ITODO).

The enemy within is the man inside, that life that we all acquire at the garden of Eden (original sin) RM 7:1-5.

there is a bride groom we are all married to, until the bride groom dies, you can not marry another person

.i.e. there is a link between us and the nature inside, until that nature dies, fasting, prayers can not deal with that nature, its only the power of God that can deal with that nature and the way out is death. RM 6,ISIAH 53:4-5,JOHN 10:1-.(door and window).

We have so many thief seated in the church today, its only when you pass through the door that you are transformed, transformation is the begining of Christianity (2 Tim).

The parable of the wheat, weed and grain, you can not weed away false Christian in the world today. God has decided to leave it, there is no way we also can do that .Mt 13:24-30,TITUS 2:11-14.

Those who obey their human nature can not please God. The old nature can not please God until there is change, and then their transformation would take place just like st Paul.

1. HUMILITY: The only place Jesus was found was on the mountain tops and hills the birds have nest to stay, the fox have holes to hide, the son of man have no place to lay his head yet he was found every where healing the sick, setting the captive free from bondage)Jesus has the power to chose where to come from(humble)-Nazareth instead of Jerusalem , Mary and Joseph instead of love of self (humility).

2. SACRIFIES: Jesus came to not to be served but to serve and saved mankind .Mk 10:44-45.

He didn’t have house, children, girl friend, he didn’t pamper himself .all are dead all along.

3. LOVE: Jhn: 15:9-17, first John 7:14.

FORGIVENESS TO ALL:
Roman 12:17-21,prov 25:21-27.what nature are you carrying(old or new) preaching can not handle this matter, talk will only open our eyes to see it .forgives is the tools used to check and access the old nature inside of us.

Sirach 4:1-7, mt 5:23-48, Levi 19:17-18 , prove 25:21-22.

SPIRITUAL EMPOWERMENT FOR YOUR DESTINY – EXODUS 2:23-25; 3:1-10; ACTS 10:38 (ABRAHAM ITODO)

God will enlist you for your destiny and then He will begin a programme to empower you for it.

Time will pass whether you plan for it or not. But as time passes by, you must pay attention to what is coming to pass in your life. If you and some others are on the same level today, in 20 years all of you won’t be on the same level any more.

Life will ask you for what you have become in the process of time.

Be conscious to get yourself ready for the time that God will come for you.

As time passes, God expects you to be doing something about the destiny He has prepared for you. God will come regularly to check where you are in life and destiny.

Your current position is not as important to God as what is happening to you. You must be careful not to become something that God can’t work with.

Your cooperation with God and His plan for you will determine how long it will take for God to make you into what can take your next level.

A person that truly loves you will not side with your comfort to the detriment of your future.

God is more committed to making you the right person than placing you in a right environment.

When and where it concerns the fulfilment of your destiny, you will need empowerment in the following areas:

1. Spiritual empowerment:

As your destiny begins to manifest, you will get busier, but the foundation of all empowerment is the power you have with God.

You need a (higher) spiritual seat to sustain other (lower) seats you have in life.

Divine assignments, assigned to you directly from the Lord or through your God-ordained pastor, always deliver from satanic appointments.

If God has chosen you, the devil will contest for your life, but the Holy Spirit will move heaven and earth and whatever is needed to help you accomplish the will of God.

Spiritual power consists of the following:

A. A private and solid relationship with God.

B. Prioritizing the presence of God.

C. The anointing of the Holy Spirit.

D. The gifts of the Holy Spirit that God brings into your life.

E. Faith that comes from the Word of God.

The pathways to spiritual power include:

A. Intimacy with God; i.e. spending time with God in His word, in worship and in prayer.

B. Fasting and prayer.

C. The baptism in the Holy Spirit.

Prayer: Lord, I refuse to be a weak Christian. I receive grace to discover and follow every process you have laid out for my destiny in Jesus’ name, amen.

WHO IS THE RIGHT PARTNER ? (ABRAHAM ITODO)

I said ealier that we shall see various ways God
speaks to people on the choice of a marriage
partner.

Note, you cannot bottle God, He moves in
mysterious ways to perform His will, therefore I’ll
only be sharing some important ways through
which God speaks.

For a Christian who is right with God, there must be a way God has been communicating with you before the issue of marriage comes up.

He will mostly use that means to convey the message to you too as He is not an author of confusion.

He will not start a different means which will make you confused, although you may get confirmation through a different way.

Don’t bottle Him up or fix Him into your mood
expecting a particular means, be open minded
and let Him direct you by choosing a means you
will perfectly understand.

Or rather, master the
means through which He speaks to you. If you are a child of God, He himself will surely speak to you, I testify to that by His grace.

He can speak through the following ways:

1. The Bible:
During your devotion or studying time. How often
do you commune with God in personal study,
digging deep into His words? You want to hear
God? Read His word!

2. Through a still small voice: It is not harsh except He is correcting you sometimes. This voice can only come as a result of the in-dwelling of the Holy Spirit in you. I Kings 19:12b. This is more reason you have to keep your heart pure and holy at all times by His grace and conscious effort by you.

3. Prophesy: Yes I said prophesy, we still have good prophets around, just that you must be extremely careful.

To do this, just like Apostle Paul recorded about the believers in Berea who received the word and do go back daily to search the scriptures if those
things were true (Acts 17:11). Confirm the
prophesy in prayers!

4. Through dreams and visions: Let me quickly tell you that dream comes through 3 different means.

1. From God
2. From the devil
3. From self
Therefore, you have to also pray about the dream for another confirmation, it is not a taboo for you to hear Him twice. He spoke to me twice using two different methods I’m used to, so He can do it to you too if you ask.

Be sure the dream is not
as a result of your state of mind! That God chose him/her does not mean there won’t be storm but there is Jesus in it to calm whatever betide.

I’m sure he/she is the right person but he/she is not yielding, go and report to God, He can convince the person too and if he/ she is still proving hard, tell God; He has a replacement is available.

Just move with God
step by step as He leads.
Note that when it seems that God is not responding to your prayer about a particular person; it may be as a result of a sin in your life affecting your prayer, or having a ready made person in mind wanting God to stamp, or not having a walk with God initially.

God may also be teaching you patience so that you can see what is
about to unfold about the person.

Why do we have break-ups in Christian courtships
then after being convinced? That’s a topic for another day by His grace.

Your conviction is an important ingredient for a
successful marriage, have one and be sure of it!

Confession: I need your direction oh Lord as I wait patiently for the flesh of my flesh and the bone of my bone…

Prayer: Say Father, give me the gift of the Holy
Spirit, speak to me in a way I will understand and
show me direction to towards my marital choice in Jesus name.

YOUR WEDDING DAY AND TIPS FOR FINDING THE BEST WEDDING SPOT: (ABRAHAM ITODO)

A good wedding planner is worth their weigh in gold. Remember, they do this for a living. They know the ins and out, who to use and who not to use.

A planner takes the guess work and worry out of your day.

PLAN AHEAD: plan as early as possible, six months is not too early.

STYLE: Decides on the style and location of your wedding –indoor/outdoor, formal/informal/casual.

VENUE: visit multiple venues for your wedding, you might fall in love with a place and changed the style of your wedding, when looking at venues, get in writing , what u can and cant do at the location, what they provide e.t.c ,the more details , the better.

BUDGET: figure out a budget – hire a wedding planner or at least get a planning book.

BOOKING: Book these first early: venue, photographers, caterer, minister, planner and who’s making your cake.

ACCOMODATION: check into guest accommodation early.

REFERENCE: Get vendor reference, your wedding planner or persons at the venue can help with these, it will save you a lot of headache on the big day if u hire.
REALIABILITY AND DEPENDABILITY.

Do not let the joy of the coming wedding deprive you of the necessary prayers and fasting you are to engage yourself before the wedding proper, those who don’t pray for their wedding are actually playing with their future marriage.

The devil can start programming your marriage negatively starting from your wedding day.

Whether you like it or not, you have enemies and the only opportunity they have to reach is on your wedding day, when your heart is merry and overcharged with eating drinking. It is your danger period.

Even Jesus warned his disciples of carelessness in the day of celebration and feasting.

Many times, people are carried away by the numbers of those who attended their wedding, forgetting that among them are peter and Iscariot.

I wish you understand what I mean. Some of these crowd are mixed multitude among whom are those who came to see what will happened in the program, because from the start, they have already wished you failure.

WHAT TO DO DURING YOUR RECEPTION?

The devil and his agents usually use such happy moments to lunch their attack against a believer.

Some times, what they do is, put a curse on a gift and give to you. If u do not pray enough regarding these area of gifts, they will use that means to get you.

Some marriages that are having problems today are as the results of evil gifts given to the couples on their wedding day. Pray seriously over all gifts given to you on your wedding day.

I am not discouraging you from receiving wedding gift , but am exposing to you, the wickedness of the devil against marriages.

during the wedding reception, it is advisable that both couples should not collect any gift from any body until the whole thing is over. Let the best man and the chief bridesmaid do that.

Gift from enemies may include gift of suspicious, gift of sickness, gift of bareness, gift of adultery, gift of poverty, gift of divorce.

HAPPY SUNDAY TO YOU ALL

A TRUE LIFE STORY OF SEX ADDICT.. Introduction. (PART TWO)

I was shell-shocked and dumb- founded. Before I could say jack, she did it again, and again and again. When she noticed the obvious shock on my face, she whispered, “Goodnight”, and walked away. I returned home that night thinking I was dreaming. I touched my lips several times and it sent a shiver down my spine. I was still examining myself when my phoned beeped.

Mary had sent a message which reads, “I hope you liked when I did. I can do much more if you allow me. 1 4 3. Liked what you did? Are you kidding me? I was about deleting the message when the number “1 4
3” caught my attention. What is “1 4 3”?

With curiosity overwhelming my mind, I replied her message by simply saying, “Mary, what Is 1 4 3?”
I sat on my bed waiting for a reply…which never came that day. I called her number before going to bed that night but she never answered the call.
I went to her house the following day only to be told that she had travelled. Tra wetin? How manage?

Later I learnt her father had a function to attend and she willingly followed him. Mary and her father spent a whole week. I was calling her phone all along but she didn’t answer. Wahala don happen. Mary and I didn’t see each other for another 2 weeks. The only thing on my
Mind was simply to ask her what “1 4 3” means. It was Valentine. The youth of the church had organized a feast so that we won’t be roaming the streets looking a Val. I dressed in all black with a red tie, looking cute – at least, to my taste. I made sure I was in church early enough not to miss any funny moment. I sat in the middle so that I would neither be too close nor too far from the whole action. I had not sat for 5mins when I sniffed the perfume of someone I know so well sitting close by. When I lift up my head to see who it was, guess who:

Mary The programme ended in my mind immediately I saw Mary. I lost all my gentlemanliness. As in, it was so obvious that I wasn’t myself. She was dressed in all white gowns with a touch of red. She sat comfortably 3 seats away from mine. I felt too heavy to move because of her presence. I couldn’t help it. She looked so gorgeous and radiant. I didn’t even realize that I was sweating profusely even though I was sitting directly opposite a gigantic standing fan. I was savoring her beauty when I felt someone tapped my shoulder, “Bros, dem don dey call you since now.” The programmed cord had been calling me to say
the opening prayer but couldn’t hear him. My
mind, my heart and all of my being was about
Mary. Hope say this girl no go kill me sha? I enthused.

I muttered some words sha, and I sat down. Like I said, the programme ended immediately I saw
Mary. So, for the rest of the time I was seated
there, na only my body dey there. My mind was
somewhere else. I couldn’t wait to get out.
Finally, the prog ended. I quickly stood up before
the ‘grace’ was shared. When I turned, one of the
youth excos was already standing next to me. He
whispered in my ears and said, “Brother, I would
like to see you for a brief chat.” Brief wetin?
Nooooooooo. Bros free me abeg. “Can’t it wait till
some other time?” I asked. “No sir”, he replied. Se
wahala. When I turned around, Mary had left the
church. “Jezz! What a missed opportunity. Who
knows when I’m going to see her again?” I
thought within myself.
Reluctantly, I followed the brother. He spent
30mins talking but to me, it was as if he was in
slow motion.. some stage, I thought he was speaking
backwards. Physically I was there with him but
my mind was away. The only thing I heard him
say was, “So, that’s all brother.” “Ok sir. Thanks.
I’ll think about it. Bye”, I replied, as if I heard
what he has been saying.
I left church that evening a little sad.

Sad because I passed up the chance of finding answer
to that mysterious “1 4 3-ish” and also to
confront Mary and ask her what’s going on. I
wobbled home that day. All who greeted me
received little or no response. I got home dejected and Nepa didn’t help matter. They struck
immediately I stepped into the compound. I began to rain curse on them so much that my
neighbours were wondering if it was me or not.

The one who had the gut to calm me received the
shock of his life. I was annoyed and intensed.
I brought out my phone for little illumination.
Before I got to my door, I sniffed the perfume
again, the smell I know so well. When I lift up
head, standing in front of my door was a figure I
had seen in church: MARY. Jezz! I almost fainted.

My heartbeat increased immediately at a pace
that even Usain Bolt won’t dare to compete with.

Truly, this girl is toying with me Mary? “Sir”, she replied. I querried, “Why have you decided to hurt me Mary? What have I done to…”

Before I could finish my sentence, she place a
finger on my lips and whispered, “sssssshhhhh.
Open your door. I have few minutes to spend
here.” Her words melt my heart. As if I’m under
the power of a remote control, I stopped talking
and unlocked the door to my apartment.

TO BE CONTINUED IN PART THREE.

A TRUE LIFE STORY OF SEX ADDICT.. Introduction. (PART ONE)

Purity is by God’s grace, yes. However, parents must stand up to the challenge of nurturing their wards to becoming pure as commanded by God in the Bible.

As for me though, I wasn’t. Thanks to my parents’ divorce and deaths, and my unwillingness to chastise myself. After finishing my FSLC (First School Leaving Certificate).

sponsored by my mother, I left her house for my dad’s to continue my secondary education. Filled with the euphoria for a new adventure, I rumbled in happiness – along with my elder brother who happened to start his own education same time as I started. We left our mum.

She was both happy and sad: happy because our father will henceforth foot our school bills and second, she would miss her two sons. We shared her dilemma, too. But as young lads, the former was what we were on the look out for. We had imagined freedom, enjoyment, adventure and making new friends. We would live a more suitable lifestyle; after all, our father was on the payroll of Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation.

All my life until that moment, my brother and I had been jumping places: aunties, uncles, relations…and so on. It was in my granny’s house that I first experienced what will later haunt me: sex! I was only 5 years old when a sister, who at that time would be 4 times older than me, lured me into her room and had carnal knowledge of me.
Child abuse right?

Stupidly though, I didn’t tell anyone. I guess I was enjoying it or I probably don’t know what I was doing. This went on for years until my decided that we’ve overstayed our welcome in granny’s house after roughly 5-6 years with her. I left my granny’s, but the experience didn’t leave me. There is no day I don’t reminisce about it, even now. I didn’t know why I kept mute about this but obviously, it was one decision I regret not making. It did hunt me.

My father was a man of many women. He was a scholar, a PhD holder when it comes to doing the ‘Adam’ with women. He had six wives, my mum his first, and so many concubines. My brother, my elder sister and I are the result of his union with my mum. My brother and I arrived at our father’s house, full of excitement and hope. Without much-ado, we were enrolled into one of the finest secondary schools in Ikorodu axis (name withheld) to begin our secondary education. Months passed. Two years later, my mum died. She passed away after a brief illness. We were young. Much younger to be without a mother, being assured by our father’s promises, we lived on.

I may not tell you guys what we went through In his house. That’s another soap opera itself. Alas, 4 years after our mother’s demise, our father died too. He was shot by robbers when he ran into an operation scene. I don’t know if this is fate or not: we were about writing our JSCE and SSCE exams when our mother and father passed away respectively. I thought I would never live again. Well, this is
2015! I’m still alive by God’s grace. The boy grew up.

My education halted when my father died. My sister was in her 300L in UNILAG. There were no sponsors anywhere; no, not even from my father’s brothers who would flood our house almost every week for “pocket money”. I had to make a choice: start working. So, I was 16 years old when I started working in a factory. I was the smallest, the youngest, yet, the most troublesome. I was paid every forth night (#1,325). Though the money was never enough to do a thing, feeding was catered for.

Friends, this is the beginning of a transition from a gentle, innocuous-looking, innocent and peaceful child to a shrewd, wayward and pervert man!
Fast forward.

**** My first victim: Mary.
She was 17+ when we met. We attend same church. She would call me and come to me for advice almost every day. I welcomed her with open arms and do share “brotherly” advice with her.

First Lesson: Girls, as much as it is good to seek for advice, never you go to guys for one.

No matter how ‘spiritual’ that brother may appear, the lion can never be a friend or guardian to the lamb without a temptation to eat it.

Some guys have good motives and pure mind but the girl might have ulterior motives. That’s my case! There is no single day that Mary won’t stop by to say hello. The closeness grew so much that other
Girls of her age became jealous. I need to say here that I was a popular figure in church. Almost everybody likes me, girls especially.

All along, little did I know that Mary had gone to spread fake gospel to her close friends that we had something going, even though we had NOTHING!

Of a truth, Mary is a beauty to behold. Blessed with all the aura a woman would die for. Academically, she is brilliant. I guess that was the most attractive thing about her. So, when I heard of her antics, surprisingly, I was 30% angry but 70% happy. A mystery I’m still to unravel. After several warnings, she apologized.

Her readiness to accept wrong, apologies and her
Seductive humility ravaged me. I lost after her. Even though she was 17+, Mary possessed the maturity of a 22yr old.

She is smart, calculative and blunt. So, it was no surprise that when I finally presented my manifesto, she agreed already What ever is it I requested of Mary, she agreed to it already:

whether right or wrong. She was ready to do my bidding any day, anytime. In her words, “I just want you close to me that’s all I want.” At first, I was a bit scared. I was supposed to nurture Mary in the Lord. But here I am doing the opposite. Well, who cares? What later resulted to numerous sexes with her started with a simple innocuous kiss on the hand? She would call me and text me about how she felt when I kissed her hand. Was she naive?

I had no idea. Subtly, a kiss on the hand led to a kiss on the cheek, neck and forehead. Still, she would make reference to all of it, making me so tensed and a little frightened. Then, one day, as I was seeing her off to her house, suddenly, she turned around and planted a kiss on my lips.

To be continued in part two:

Ugbaha Mohammed ‘Dogo’: Chief Cook Served 7 Past Nigerian Leaders, In Poverty by Anonymous:

The story of 73-year-old Ugbaha Mohammed popularly known as Dogo is that of a fall from grace to grass. From the glamour and bliss of the State House in Lagos and Aso Rock, Abuja under seven former Nigerian leaders including military heads of state and civilian presidents, Dogo now lives in a thatched room offered him by a Good Samaritan in an Abuja slum.

Dogo served three civilian presidents and four military heads of state beginning from the administration of the late Alhaji Shehu Shagari. Despite coming so close to power and fame, he is now dejected because of rejection by his children and other relations as well as the Nigerian leaders he served.

His journey to this present life of horror, misery and squalor began when the only house built for him by Gen. Nuhu Bamalli, former aide de camp (ADC) to the then military president, Gen. Ibrahim Babangida, was burnt during a political crisis in his village in Benue State.

LEADERSHIP Weekend gathered that his children and other members of the family deserted him after the unfortunate incident.

Some of his children told our correspondents that they were yet to unravel the mystery behind a man who served seven Nigerian presidents not having a roof over his head and affording the cheapest medical service.

The thatched house located near a police station in Gwagalape, a remote community in Nyanya, Abuja Municipal Area Council (AMAC) is owned by 36-year-old Faith Okolo who came to Dogo’s rescue when everyone left him in the cold.

While in active service, Dogo cooked and served rich, nutritious, and appetising meals to the former heads of states and civilian presidents, their families as well as their visitors, both Nigerians and foreigners. Then he was the cynosure of those who came across him as he charmed everyone with his height and chief cook attire.

As the chief cook at the presidential villa, Abuja, his highest monthly salary was N25,000.

From his story, Dogo served the late Second Republic President, Alhaji Shehu Shagari, Gen. Muhammadu Buhari as head of state, Gen. Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida, Chief Ernest Shonekan, head of the Interim National Government (ING), the late Gen. Sani Abacha, Gen. Abdulsalami Abubakar, and former President Olusegun Obasanjo.

He started life as a soldier during the Nigerian Civil War before fate turned him to a presidential cook.

During his service at the villa, LEADERSHIP Weekend gathered that the children of these leaders sometimes refused to eat food not prepared by Dogo.

He said: “I served Shehu Shagari, Muhammadu Buhari, Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida, Ernest Shonekan, Sani Abacha, Abdulsalam Abubakar, Olusegun Obasanjo, after which, I left.”

Dogo told LEADERSHIP Weekend when he was traced to the thatched room in the Abuja suburb that “I was called upon during the late Umaru Musa Yar’adua and Goodluck Jonathan administration, but I declined simply because I felt there was nothing I had gained serving other presidents. But in 2015, the housekeeper to President Muhammadu Buhari, Sale Yuguda, called me, and because of the relationship I had with the president when he was head of state, I took the job hoping that one day I would be able to talk to the president about my plight.

“Unfortunately, I was posted to the Defence House where I attended to the National Security Adviser (NSA) and Chief of Staff. I was there for four years without an appointment letter or salary but I was given N25,000 per month which stopped coming when my appointment letter was ready.

“Hoping that someday I will be privileged to see and talk to the president, when I was given the appointment January 1, 2018, I worked for six months without salary until July and the first salary I got was N70,000. By July end, I got paid for two and half months, plus overtime running to N70,000 plus. My monthly salary after that was N20,000. During these years of service, I never for a day took permission to travel,” Dogo said.

His predicament did not end there. The only house he retired to in the village with his children after serving Obasanjo was burnt down during a political unrest and all the members of the family were scattered.

Dogo continued: “Nuhu Bamalli, ADC of Gen. Babangida, assisted me with the finances for the building of my only house I’ve had in my life in the village but due to a political crisis that broke out, the house was burnt down, four of my brothers had gunshot wounds but they survived.

“I have nine children, six girls and three boys. My wife died in 2003 from tonsils. We were in Abuja then, when she went to seek traditional help at Karu, her condition became worse; she was taken to a hospital and later referred to Asokoro General Hospital but she didn’t make it,” Dogo said of the passage of his wife.

On his relationship with his children, Dogo said: “Most of my children are annoyed with me, especially the first child. Whenever she pays me a visit, she ends up crying, and tells me that I’m supposed to be an important person, but my condition is pathetic.

“My children think I earned more but squandered it. On one occasion, I had to remind my first daughter how I once sought a piece of advice from her on what to do with my money, and her words made me to buy a grinding machine and this went a long way to improve our finances before it broke down,” he said.

Dogo, an Idoma from Otukpa in Ugboji local government area of Benue State, relocated to his maternal place in Ugbadibo local government area of the state after the destruction of his house.

Born on August 20, 1946 at Ugboji, Dogo still remembers the moments of joy and laughter during his childhood despite the present difficulties he lives with.

After attending St. Mary Primary School in Ogobia, Ugboji in Benue State, Dogo joined the Nigerian Army when he heard a recruitment announcement in Kaduna, where his height got him the job.

The war veteran was enlisted on January 1, 1969, trained before he headed to the war front as mortal soldier that made use of bombs for various operations.

After the war, Dogo retired in 1979 and joined the State House in 1980.

“I went to visit a friend, who was the watchman for one Gen. Osisi. While I was there, my friend was busy ironing the General’s uniform and there were other wears there. I asked for an iron to assist with the female wears I saw and was given the iron.

“I applied starch on it while I pressed it. I handed it over to a woman who was there to collect the wears. On seeing it, she was impressed and added more clothes. I finished and took them to her, and she asked where I was working, and I replied I was without a job. She told me to draft an application letter immediately, which I did and handed it over to her. She attached a letter and told me where to take it. She also revealed that she was the housekeeper to the then President Shehu Shagari and her name was Mrs. Adela.

“I took the letter to the office; one lance corporal accompanied me and took me to the permanent secretary. When he read the application, he instructed that a file be opened for me. I also did an interview and was given a job and directed to start immediately. That was how I secured the job at the State House.

“It was like a dream, I took the appointment letter to the president’s housekeeper, and she told me they were sending me to Federal Palace Hotel to be trained as a cook. Some days later, a sibling to the housekeeper became the managing director at a Nigerian Hotel, so I was withdrawn from the Federal Palace Hotel to continue training at the Nigerian Hotel.

“After the training, I went to the State House to commence work as a cook,” Dogo said, as he shared his experiences at the State House.

“After serving at the State House during the Shagari era, one night soldiers went round knocking from one door to the next, asking of Dogo. They finally got to my door, and asked if I was the person; I responded in the affirmative and the over eight soldiers said that I was needed at Dodan Barracks, Lagos. Immediately my wife heard she began crying as she felt the worst was about to happen, but the soldier in charge asked why she was crying. He said it was a promotion because there was a change in government and they needed my services because the coup plotters were hungry,” Dogo said.

He followed the soldiers as the only cook at the State House that stayed behind because his employment was directly from the State House unlike others whose files were with the contract company.

The soldiers took Dogo to Dodan Barracks and when he got to the kitchen, he requested for soldiers to assist him and was given seven.

“I had to send packs of food, over 40 to Bonny Barracks and Command Mess at Onikan was given 20, Command Mess at Okotie Eboh was given 20 and the food for the main house was also delivered,” Dogo explained how he shared food to the coup plotters.

“I continued as the only cook until three more cooks joined me. The ADC told them to take their jobs serious because they were recommended by me as people who were reliable and they were told to henceforth, respect me as the chief cook.

“I automatically became General Muhammadu Buhari’s chief cook. While I was serving the head of state, everything that had to do with the wellbeing of staff, he would ask me. We usually had a menu they went through during their meals, and from the list of the dishes, they would tick the preferred meals for the next day,” Dogo said.

The then chief cook said that Gen. Buhari at that time preferred Tuwon Shinkafa, Tuwon Masara with either Miyan Kuka, Miyan Taushe or Egusi soup.

“We cooked only a soup in a day and after dishing the food, he would add mai shanu to it. Daily we kept salt, pepper and other seasoning on the table for whoever needed them. There was an instance the ADC and I quarrelled and he told me to leave the kitchen. After I left, when the president’s children returned home from school, they asked after me ‘Dogo’ and were told I was no longer there.

“Food was ready and served but they insisted they would not eat except I was brought back, they had to send for me from the State House, Marina. When I arrived, the head of state’s wife called him from the office. I was summoned before him, his wife, the ADC and children. Then the head of state asked why I left work, before I could give a response, the children said they needed no explanation, and they told me to go and prepare food for them to eat.

“That was how the case ended and I didn’t have the opportunity to tell the head of state what transpired. Shehu Shagari’s children were also fond of me and would not eat any food that was not prepared by me. I had direct access to him during his regime before he was overthrown. I served IBB for eight years and had a good working relationship with the family,”Dogo stated.

He said back then, he lived at Maroko and arrived late for work. IBB’s son, Mohammed, refused eating the food prepared for him because Dogo didn’t do it and left for school.

“When he came back, he asked where I lived and I told him. He was angry and said, how can a chief cook live far from his place of work? He immediately took his phone and put a call across to the ADC and gave him 30 minutes to give me a place at the State House, Marina and it wasn’t up to 30 minutes when the ADC called me. I was given a place and a gardener took my things from Maroko to the State House Marina,” Dogo said, adding that the president’s son was good to him.

“Whenever I ran to him for assistance, he was ready to provide my needs. After they left the State House, I lost contact with him,” Dogo said of Mohammed Babangida.

While Ernest Shonekan was ING head, Dogo also served him, but it didn’t take long, and he was overthrown by the late Abacha.

“Gen. Abacha came along with four cooks and they were sergeants, a major, a lance corporal and myself. I was the only civilian among them. I was not in charge of the kitchen, but I worked with them. I also served Gen. Abdulsalami Abubakar and Olusegun Obasanjo. It was a rare privilege, and it was an honour to have served them,” he said.

Of all these years Dogo spent serving the Nigerian leaders at the State House both in Lagos and Abuja, a surgical operation he had while treating a groin problem led to his retirement during Obasanjo’s administration.

“After retirement, I took to carpentry to make ends meet but I later took ill with hernia due to the strenuous nature of the work. There’s no one who has gone through difficult times like me. I have never in my entire existence counted N100,000 at once,” Dogo said while narrating how his house in the village that was burnt down was built with the help of the late ADC to Babangida.
“This is the only house I’ve built in my life and it was all I had. I have written various administrations and attached copies of reports of my health challenges and hardship but there has been no response,” he said.

“Right now, all I can do is to plead with people to assist me. My situation is worsened as my family has relocated to my maternal village and God forbid, but if the unexpected happens, they would not even have a land to bury me because I don’t have a land there and they would not be able to come up with the money to buy a piece of land,” Dogo said.

“My job at the State House made me susceptible to everyone in the village. They assume that I was doing well and therefore refuse to assist them. Whenever there is a donation in the village, they charge me higher than others and when I spoke out, they would claim I was working with the president and that money was not a problem.

“Whenever I talk of my hardship, nobody believes me, including my children. They say it’s impossible to work with a president and more so I have worked with many, yet none has helped me in the aspect of children’s education and so on. I keep telling people that none of the presidents I have served ever asked about my family and I cannot start telling them about my problems,” he said.
He said while serving, some workers were asked about their needs and it was met.

“So I felt my time will come, but it never did. I was ashamed to cry to them and being turned down on the account that I was being paid salary. Besides, I’m not the type of person that talks about his struggles at work without being asked and this is the reason I kept quiet all these years. I regret this and to correct it, after declining to work for the late former President Umaru Musa Yar’Adua and Goodluck Ebele Jonathan when I was called upon. I accepted to serve the present administration when I was called while in the village cultivating cassava.

“I fell ill around March this year and had to be in and out of hospitals like State House Medical Centre, Customs and Asokoro General hospitals trying to get a diagnosis but it has not been detected and I still have pains on my leg,” Dogo said, adding that the people he worked with knew about his sickness.

“They are aware that I’ve been sick at work and I’m still being paid my salary monthly. I was advised to get traditional help, and I did. The wound on my leg is healed and the pain has reduced. I called the person in charge, Sale Yuguda, housekeeper to the president and told him that I was feeling better and was ready to resume work, but he told me he had removed my name from the staff list. I sent a text message but got no response from him and have been restless ever since,” Dogo said.

Speaking to LEADERSHIP Weekend, 36-year-old Faith Okolo, who provided an accommodation for Dogo said that she saw him as a father and was sad about his situation.

“As a father, his homeless situation is sad. He did not withhold any information about himself from me; he has served heads of states and presidents but he is in this condition. I wish I could do more for him but I’m also struggling,” Faith said.

According to her, “the community is aware of his situation; sometimes they encourage him and give him advice. This is a village and everybody living here is managing and can only do little for him because it is not easy.”

One of his children, Oche Dogo, told LEADERSHIP Weekend that he was surprised that someone who served several presidents was living in such a terrible condition.

“He started serving this country right from Shagari era to Buhari. Even when he was sick, they abandoned him. As you can see, he is in a very bad situation. But we don’t just know what our country is all about,” the 45-year-old Oche said.

Also speaking, 38-year-old Emmanuel Dogo said that no one in the village believed that their father was poor.

He said the family had been scattered by the burning of their house in the village and appealed for help.

He Said “no S*x Before Marriage.” We Got Married And I Discovered What He Was Tr :

I could have sent this story to you earlier but I couldn’t. I couldn’t because I’m still married to this man and it felt like I’m giving him away. Also, I believed in miracles.

I believed our problems would be over very soon but it hasn’t. It’s been four years and nothing has changed. I’m giving up. I don’t know when but very soon I would. And this has brought me the courage to share my story with you.

I’m a church girl. I mean I’m the girl you’ll call “Chrife” and be right every day. Majority of my days are spent in church because there’s always something there for me to do.

It was in the church that I found my first boyfriend. We dated for three years and he traveled overseas. A year after he traveled, he told me to find someone else because he wasn’t going to come back anytime soon. Two years after he broke up with me, he came back, married another woman and took her overseas to live with him.

I wasn’t angry. God’s time is the best and I’ve always believed what’s really mine can’t be taken away from me. I was happy for him and wished him well. I was even the lead singer during their wedding.

Then I met Fiifi. Fiifi and I became close and he later proposed to me and I said yes. I’ve known Fiifi for a very long time. We both are members of the church choir. The kind of voice he has is like nothing I’ve seen in any human. The church is different whenever he leads worship. You feel fulfilled whenever he sings the solo. He’s a good man and kind at heart.

The first rule he set for our relationship was “no sex until we marry.” I understood him clearly because both of us can’t be having sex and stand in front of the congregation and pretend we are the holiest among holies. Who are we deceiving?

For the two years that we were dating, we never had sex. I must admit, we kissed but we left it there. We avoided every encounter that would lead to sex, we were that determined to keep the temple of the Lord clean.

Two years after dating, we got married. You could imagine the bliss and pride in my heart that day—for going through dating without committing premarital sex.

I felt deserved of the veil and the snow-white gown. When he finally lifted the veil, the significance of the whole process dawned on me. It felt like he was unveiling something that has been hidden from view for so long. I still remember that feeling.

The first night of our honeymoon, I had a game plan—I had mentally pictured how our first sex was going to be like. I had played it over and over again in my mind and all the details were stuck in my mind’s eye.

Immediately we entered the room, I was all over him. We started kissing and got pressed together. I could feel his bulge. It got harder and harder as we kept kissing and touching. I couldn’t take it any longer. By this time we were both Unclad so I lied on the bed waiting ….

As soon as he put it in, he lost his bulge. His thing went dead and soft. It was so sudden and quick that I thought something was wrong. He looked at me, embarrassed.

He said; “I guess I’m little too tired. Let’s have some sleep. We can do it at dawn.” He kissed me and turned to the wall and slept.

I couldn’t sleep. I didn’t know whether to be angry or even hit his head with a mall hammer. But dawn wasn’t far away so I pepped myself up to sleep.

I awoke around 6am and this guy was already dressed and ready for church. The church starts at 9am but at 6am he was already up and ready to go. I only gave him a stare, turned on my other side and continued sleeping. He tapped on my shoulder, “Darling, it’s already morning. Get up and let’s start our devotion so you can get ready early for church.”

We had our devotion and later went to church. I must admit, the events of the night got me thinking and scared. I was at church but didn’t hear a word of what was said that day. “Is that how it’s going to be every day?” I asked myself over and over again.

Another night, the same story. The next night was even worse.

Finally, we both accepted there was a problem. He confessed he had had a glimpse of the problem with his former girlfriend but he thought it was something that had to do with the ex-girlfriend so he didn’t take it seriously.

We visited hospitals but had no improvement after months. We resorted to herbal drugs and after several months nothing worked out.

I was in serious distress and needed someone to talk to. He always cried to me to keep it a secret and rather talk to God about it since he’s the ultimate healer.

It became the prayer topic of our morning devotions and night prayers but we still didn’t have the results.

After a year of our marriage, I gathered the courage and spoke to our pastor about it. We were called to the pastor’s home and counseled for over hours. We prayed and the pastor gave us directions.

When we went home that night he was very angry that I’ve taken the problem to the pastor. He was concerned about what people would say than finding solutions.

In the third year of marriage, issues of childbirth came up. His mum thought I was the problem and started giving me herbal drugs to speed up the pregnancy process.

My parent thought same too. My mum took me to several prayer camps. Many pastors touched my stomach and prayed for a seed to sprout in me. I was eager to help save the face of my husband and my marriage.

Some people in the choir accused me of suffering barrenness because of previous abortions. I bore it all just to save the face of my marriage and all the while looking up to the face of God for a miracle.

Our marriage was four years in January and still this man I called husband isn’t able to perform his nightly duties as a man. The sad thing is, people look at my face and think I’m the problem.

My husband sings in church and some of them even cry so they think he’s far from afflictions.

The breaking point for me is this…

Now the mother of my husband lives with us. The main purpose of her staying with us is to ensure I drink the herbal concoctions she prepares for me every morning and evening. To her innocent mind, I’ve not been taking the drugs well that’s why it hasn’t worked all this while.

She’s here to ensure I take it every morning and evening without fail.

How long can I continue playing this charade?

Not for too long, I can feel it in my spirit. I am tired and almost broken. There are only two people I owe explanations to—my mom and my dad. I know the day I decide it’s finally over, they would be the first people to ask why.

That day, I will lay down all the sufferings I’ve been through for the past four years under their feet. I will tell them how bitter those concoctions taste like and will let them know I tried.

I would let them know I believed in miracles but maybe, just maybe miracles didn’t believe in me.

And no, I won’t cry when I finally decide to walk away. I would walk with my head held up high knowing I tried. Knowing I believed. Knowing I wanted the best for both of us.

I wasn’t given the chance to prove how good I could be as a wife and a mother, but if I leave now, I could have another chance at love and who knows, the bulge might not die any longer.

What’s your advice for me pls?

Please Advice: Will She Ever Be Ready For True Love? By Jzhane

Good evening ma,

Hide my name please. I really need advice. Its about my fiancee. I have been friends with her since 2010. I like her alot but she was in a relationship so I had no choice but to keep my distance.

However,her then boyfriend used to cheat on her and they used to fight and break up and make up every time. When they break up,I used to be the one that she will run to.

I will comfort her and tell her she deserves better. She will be swearing that she will never go back to him.

But guess what,she will still go back to this guy after the guy begs her. Maybe buys her a few gifts. It was like that:up and down. Break up today, make up tomorrow.

I used to wonder what hold this guy has on her. Well,eventually,they had a big fall out. She eventually left him for good.

She left really battered emotionally. I think that is where the problem is. Her self esteem and lack of trust began but I had no idea. After like a year,I approached her to let her know how I feel about her. We started dating and I began to realize how much she lacks trust.

She became a monitoring spirit. Calling me,where are you. Going through my phone. Asking me of every on my contact. She was short fused…easily angered. This her attitude bothered me.

As her friend,I tried several time to talk to her about it. She will cry and blame it on her past experience.

Because of that,I tried to forgive her and overlook her behavior but it kept getting worse. She would call me if I told her I was coming and I came late a little bit. She would go gaga. And then,any small thing,she would break up with me. telling me its over. I would beg her and before you knew it,the former cycle continued.

For me,that is not a healthy relationship.I warned her if she continued like that,she could push me totally away. When she realizes herself,she would cry and cry. And I do not like seeing a woman cry,talk less of a woman that I love. I really do not know what to do.

I thought that if I engaged her,she would feel a little reassured. We got engaged last two months. She was happy. I was happy too. All was going well. Until two weeks ago when something happened. My ex whom I am friends with. At least she has moved on to another man,came to Lagos and she stopped by to see me.

I was surprised cos she did not call me but she explained that she lost her phone and my number.

Unfortunately,my fiancee was around,so I did not even allow her stay. From the gate,I chatted with her and explained the situation to her and she left. She was even laughing at me for being with such a possessive woman.

Not knowing that my fiancee was watching us from the curtain inside. As soon as I got in,all hell broke loose. All my efforts at explaining fell right on deaf ears. She got very dramatic and left my house after throwing my ring at me. Calling me all kinds of names,cheater,man whore,etc.

She refused to see me when I got to her place. She blocked me on every medium. I was truly surprised and exhausted. So,I decided to let her be for the time being. I did not hear from her for a whole week. I got to her place and was told she went out. I waited until 9pm. When she came back,she was dropped off by her former abusive ex.

You can imagine my shock. I asked her why she suddenly went back to this guy,she said,since all guys are the same,she better stick with the one she knows. I told her good bye and deleted all her details with me. I have been trying to move on since then.Until last Saturday,she came crying and begging.

This girl tire me. I love her so much but she got issues. I told her that. She says she knows she has issues and that I am the only one that understands her and can help her. She said she went back to that guy because she was so upset but she knew she was wrong. She knows I love her. She knows I have a weak spot for her.

What do I do? Should I accept her back? How will I continue to live like this? She has sworn to change but has she not sworn before? I do not want to loose her but she also needs to work on her attitude. All I want is love and peace. If you were in my shoes,what would you do?

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