Good morning…..

Please I need to tell you something and I need your advise.

I am someone who hates cheating. Whether its me or someone I know. I been in and out of relationship for the past few years but none of them seem serious. They just want to play with you and use you.

Even the married ones. They seem so nice to you. They flirt with you even knowing that they are married and have no intention of leaving their wives. Most of the guys who treated me nice are married. I do not want to be a home wrecker.

So,usually,I come to my sister’s place in Magodo over the weekend to help her with her kids cos she is doing a weekend masters program.

There is this guy that just moved into their building. Cool and handsome guy. He looked single as he did not move in with any body. I met him 2 months ago and we hit it off. A banker. We exchanged numbers and he used to chat with me all day even after I left for my place during the week.

I really got into this guy. He seemed funny and nice. I swear to God,I used to be much more guarded but I fell for this guy quite easily. Very charming,I could not resist the s*x too. It made me look forward to coming to Magodo every week. I used to even come on Friday night instead of Saturday morning.

We would spend the night together in his apartment. We took my sisters kids to movies. He ate at my sisters place. Everyone took a liking to him.I fell in love. My nieces and nephews started dreaming of the kids we would have so they can have cousins to play with.

All was cool until 2 weeks ago. I couldn’t make it to Magodo 2 Fridays ago cos of the heavy traffic. So I left very early on Saturday morning. I got there and his apartment was locked. I knocked and knocked until the door was opened by a lady who I obviously woke up.

This lady looked at me like what’s this….I asked of Tobi (not his real name)…she said who am I …I was about to say: his girlfriend. …but I said…his neighbor…..she said: I am his wife….His what?….I froze. She said nice to meet you.Tobi went jogging.He will soon be back.

That felt like I was in a movie. I gathered my two legs that could not move and I went back to my sister’s apartment and cried a flood. My sister and her husband couldn’t believe what happened. Tobi was the perfect guy.

Tobi rang our bell around 9am cos of course,he had been calling but I refused to pick. My sister’s husband opened the door and here Tobi was kneeling down and asking for our forgiveness. That he fell helplessly in love with me.He never planned to lie to me but he was so drawn to me.

All his explanations did not make any sense to me. I felt used and dumped and made fun of. I packed my things and left for my place. My life has never been the same again. Every day this guy calls or texts to apologize but I can’t get over him. On Tuesday night,he showed up at my place. He was waiting by my door step when I got back from work.

He cried and cried until I had no choice but to let him inside my apartment cos he was making a scene for my neighbors. This crazy guy still kept saying he loves me but he is married. He loves his wife but not in the way he loves me. I find that crazy.I know its possible to love 2 people at the same time but I will never be that person.

Tobi tried to make love to me.I fought. I fought …I swear I fought but I eventually yielded. I am in love with a married man who deceived me. I am not that type of girl. I have blocked him on my phone. I unblocked him again. My mind is messed up. I have no control over how I feel about Tobi…

I need help…my sister does not know that I still see Tobi at my place. I feel like the only way I can get him off my mind is by telling his wife. Maybe if she knew her husband was cheating, she would make him stop coming after me.

Why are married men who have beautiful wives still going after single ladies?My father was never like that. I feel pained and hurt and heart broken and destroyed. I need to heal and move on but I cannot. Please advise me. Should I tell Tobi’s wife?

She might hate me but I want her husband to back off from me….he also needs to feel the pain like I feel.

DOCTOR – My eyes are so focused on you like I’m carrying out an operation. Your love runs through my veins even without an injection. My love for you is HIV, I can only prevent it, but I can’t cure it. A thousand Vitamin C can not give me the sweetness that comes with your love. Hope you can hear the sound of my heartbeat even without using a stethoscope, I can’t stop thinking about you.

LAWYER – My heart has been found guilty of beating for you On a daily basis. I know my love for you is not in the constitution but please can I lie my way into your heart? Our love will I defend even when the judge overrules. I will quote subsection of any written lie I can find just to get you out on bail.

FARMER-In your heart I have planted the seed of growth and happiness. Even without manure it grows steadily and without delay. I have tilled my heart to the ground and no soil compares to you. Like loamy soil you are fertile for planting and harvesting. Be with me and let me feed you with love that tastes better than a new yam.

POLICE MAN- ” My love for you is like bribe, it can never stop.. Just like a thief in the cell, I won’t let u leave my heart without bail.. I will protect u with my gun even though the bullet is rusty, don’t worry I will use baton. Baby eh, I will always stand at attention so your mind CAn be at ease “😂😂😂

PASTOR – I Proclaim with my lips for thou has worn my heart. Like David looked on to God in psalm 121, so will my love go up and never come down. Like the red sea, you have parted away sadness from my life and enveloped me with a covenant too strong to be broken my an ordinary man..

NATIVE DOCTOR – Your love gives me hope like Odeshi, even when people try to hurt me I don’t feel it. You have charmed me with your juju that even the gods cannot compete with a mammy water like you because you are stronger. Take me darling, take me to the underworld and initiate me into your kingdom of love.

POLITICIAN – I promise never to break your heart baby. I will change your life, your wardrobe and even your future. See eh, because of you I will build a new road in your village and name it after you. I will even build a borehole in your compound. You will have steady power supply for the rest of your live.Just vote for my heart to win this election to your heart and I will fulfil all these promises.

TEACHER- My love for you is like my salary, it may delay, but it will always come. As the principal of my heart, I promise to teach you the rudiment of home economics and biology . Baby, you have given my heart an assignment to beat for you on a daily basis and not even ASSU strike can stop it.

WHICH ONE MAKE SENSE PASS ?

She then said. “Come to the church with me and you will know everything.”
She held my hand and led me into the church. I didn’t know what to think or expect, I just needed to know what was wrong with her.

We got into the church and what caught my eyes was the site of children playing on a mat spread on the floor. Then I said. “Okay Tope we are in the church, tell me what is going on? And why did you decide to blank me out completely?

She said. “I thought it was the right decision, ending everything we started 2 years ago. But I was wrong and I am sorry.”

I then said. “Okay, now tell me why are you not in school? Is your mother okay?”

She then gushed out in tears. It was becoming irritating and I grew impatient and….. I heard a tiny voice of a kid saying. “Mummy sorry.”

The little boy then embraced her by her leg and she carried him up.
I was shocked the baby looked very much like me when I was little…. He had the shape of my eyebrows and my droopy eyes. I then stuttered. “Is… That your child?” As sweat began to drip from my face.
She then replied sobbing. “This is our Thomas….This is our son.”

I then said. “How come, how is it possible?”
She said. “He is 2 years old, you are the only man I have slept with, he even looks like you.”
I then said. “Oh my God!” As I sat down on a bench because my knees became weary. “Tell me everything Tope.”
She said. “3 weeks after you left Kogi. I became ill and I was vomiting. My mom then asked me if I was seeing any man. I told her no. She took me to see the doctor, he ran some tests and the result was that I was pregnant. My mom beat me in the hospital with her slippers. When we got home, she threw my stuffs out and disowned me. I went to meet my closest relative and in spite of all the pleas my mom refused to take me back……” As she started sobbing.
I held her hand tight to comfort her and said. “Continue.”
She then said. “My relatives insisted I tell them who was responsible, but I refused. I didn’t want to implicate you and I know you didn’t mean it. You have always wanted to help me. So I did not tell them. 4 months later, they started maltreating me and I then decided to leave. A pastors wife took me in and I was there for 1 year. That was were I gave birth to junior and worked with the church’s primary school.”
I then said. “You mean this church?”
She said. “No, I came to this church about 6 months ago. I had to leave the other place, the pastor made some advances on me, I reported to the wife and she threw me out. I have been here since. It’s been terrible Thomas….”She began to cry out.
My mind was heavy and I knew I had to do something about her situation. She suffered because of me, her education, her family. I felt so much indebted to her. I then said. “Tope, I know everything can’t be okay, but I will do everything possible to make sure you get the best in life. God has blessed me with a good job and money is not a problem. I will get you an apartment here in Kogi and every month I will send you N200,000 for you and Junior.”
She then said. “His name is Thomas.”
I took a pause and looked at him, he was already asleep. I didn’t know whether to touch him , carry him or something. I was just too unprepared for these before me.
She then said. “I cannot stay here in Kogi.”
I then said. “Then where do you want to stay? You can’t come with me to Lagos”
She said. “Thomas, I have nobody, nobody. I have been rejected by my family, friends and relatives. The only person I have is you and my baby. I can’t stay far away from you… Please.”
I said. “Tope, a lot has happened these few years. I have moved on and you being close could affect everything my mother has established for me, everything I have worked hard for recently. It can destroy me Tope.”
She then said. “Thomas, I understand but I need someone to run to, someone to depend on. I will never interfere in your life again. I just need a new place to start all over, I don’t want my baby to go through what I went through. I need to further my education, you helped me once and I know you can help me again. I can’t provide for and protect our child Thomas”
I started to reflect on everything she said. I looked at the child, my child and I felt so sorry. I knew I can’t deny them solace, cant deny them what they want. That’s my blood she’s talking about. I was hasty in conclusion. I looked at my watch and it was almost 1 pm. I then said. “Tope, if we have to go to Lagos we have to go now. Go pack your things, I will be waiting in the car.”
It took us about 5 hours to get to Lagos. I lodged them in a hotel and handed her N50,000 in case she needed anything urgent that night. I then left for home. I avoided everyone and went straight to my room. I was very unsettled and completely in distress. Ella had been calling me but I was too weak to pick her calls.
The following day, I drove to pick Ella so we could go to church. She noticed I was not myself and she asked me. “What is wrong Thomas? you have been acting strange.”
I said to her. “I am pretty ill, but I will be fine.”
I insisted it was a flu.
After church service, I dropped Ella at her place and I went home to get some stuffs for Tope and Junior. I got Tope a new Phone and Junior, some of my old toys and lots of candies. I got to their hotel room and she appeared more relaxed. Next thing I heard was. “Daddy!!”.
I saw the excitement on his face, it sent a cold chill through my spine. Then Tope said. “Junior, come on stop that. He is uncle not daddy.”
He then said. “uncle!”
I smiled, for he looked so adorable. I gave him his goodies and he said. “Thank you uncle.” I was amazed and there was this urge inside of me to spend time with him.
I then said. “Tope, try and relax today, tomorrow you will go shopping with Junior. Here is N150,000 for you 2. The driver will come tomorrow in the morning, he will also help open an account for you as well. I have told him to secure an apartment for you in a very good environment. It will take you guys 3 days at most to furnish and set up the place to you taste.”
She then said. “Are you not going to be around?”
I said. “I told you I will be traveling this week and will be very busy. I may not see you till I return from my trip. But I will always call you.”
She took a deep breath in and was downcast. I then said. “I know you have suffered because of the decisions we made in the past. I cannot erase the past but by God’s grace, I can make your future and Junior’s better. You will write JAMB again, you will pass and you will gain admission, junior will go to the best schools and he will make us proud. But you need to keep to your word. And I will keep to mine.”
I then hugged her then I left.
At home in my room, I was deep in thoughts. I was wondering if this my plight will remain secret. Ella and I had our wedding penned in s few months, our families are involved and the planning had begun.
Days later, I was in Port Harcourt and I was kept abreast about the progress being made regarding Tope’s accommodation. I was very impressed at the development. I just wanted her to have a place she could call home and raise our child. Ella noticed something different about me and I was tired of giving her the excuse that I was ill. I later told her I developed cold feet regarding our planned wedding. That I will be fine.
I returned to Lagos after my official assignment and the first place I went to was Tope’s new apartment. I made sure it was a far from my place to avoid any trouble. I got to her door and I rang the bell. She then opened the door. She was looking more gorgeous than ever. She had her hair done, her nails, she even added little weight. She had a smile on and I just stood there looking at Tope…. She had a bum shorts on, with a half top. She was amazingly sexy, I just couldn’t help but stand there and look or should I say lust on her.
She then said. “Are you going to stand there?”
I said. “Oh sorry.” As I entered the apartment.
The sitting room was beautiful with a touch of different shades of purple. I was very impressed by her choice of taste and luxury. I knew she had it in her…
She then said. “I know you must be hungry.”
I said. “Yes, I am starving but where is Junior?”
She said. “He’s asleep, come let me serve you dinner.”
She sate me down on the dining section and she served me a dish. I opened it and what I saw took me through memory lane. It was rice, dodo and 3 pieces of meat. Just like the old days. I looked at her and she was all smiling. Flash backs began to usher in my thoughts, visualizing faded images in my memory that was once clouded. I began to fill a little spark.
After the lovely meal, she started taking me round her beautiful apartment, and the last place we stopped was her room. It looked cozy and very calm. She then stood before me and said. “Remember the first night we spent together?”
I said. “Yes I remember. How can I forget?”
We both stood there looking at each other. All I could see was a lady I once loved with all my heart and she buttressed my thoughts with a touch on my face. Her hand on my face felt like those times. I heard voices in my head. “Kiss her!!.” repeatedly. Then I kissed her, she kissed me back and

I was unbuttoning my shirt and she was pulling her bum shorts… d rest thing thst happened was stories….

When we were done she said. “Oh Thomas, you released in me again.”
I then said. “Oh shit, I am sorry.”
She then laughed and said. “It’s okay, I am safe. My ovulation had passed.”
We both laid down on our backs in silence. She then broke the silence and said. “Is she more beautiful?”
I then said. “Come on Tope. Please.”
She said. “Is she better than me? Does she satisfy you like the way I do?”
I said. “I am afraid, I can’t answer you.”
She then asked. “Do you still love me?”
I said. “I can never stop loving you Tope.”
She said. “Then why can’t you marry me?”
I then said. “My family and her family are already involved.”
She said, “I love you with my life, and I understand you have moved on. I cannot ask you to leave her for me.I want to ask you one thing Thomas. Will you choose to marry a lady you love or a lady you are trying to love?’”
I then said. “If I am left with that choose I will choose you. But I told you, our families are already involved.”
She then said. “Am I not worth fighting for?”
I became bewildered and completely helpless. I couldn’t answer her question. so we slept off.
The following morning, I left for home. Unfortunately I met Ella at my place, she was seated in the sitting room and my mom was comforting her. She was in tears. My mom then asked me. “Where are you coming from Thomas? Your chairman said you guys arrived last night”
I said. “A friend of mine was having a party so I had to attend.”
My mom then said. “Is that why you switched off your phones Thomas?”
I told her. “My batteries ran down.”

My mom then said to Ella. “You see everything is fine, I told you.”
I then went to my room and Ella followed. I had to pretend to be happy with her to erase the doubts she was having, so we played board games and watched TV. When it was dark I dropped her off and came back home.
I was going to my room and my mom called me. She said. “I gave birth to you, I nurtured you, I took you to the best schools in the country. I made you you got the best job a graduate can have. I have always looked out for your interest. I am your mother and I have been good to you since the day you were born. Now Thomas, tell me the truth. What is going on?”

At that moment I knew I couldn’t keep it within me. I told my mom. I told her everything that happened. She then said. “I am totally disappointed in you. I brought you up well, only for you to be bewitched by that girl. I blame your father for making you serve in Kogi state. Now Thomas, you will take me to where you are housing them.”
I said. “Now? It’s late mom.”
She said. “Now Thomas. And who else knows about this? ”
I said. “Nobody just us.”
She then said. “It is going to remain that way.”
Her driver then took us to Tope’s apartment. I knocked and Tope opened the door and said. “Sweety, I was just …….”
My mom said. “Who is your sweety?”
Tope was scared to her teeth and she said. “Sorry mummy, I didn’t see..”
My Mom said. “Don’t call me mummy. Your mother disowned you because of your treachery.”
We all stepped into the apartment. My mom then said. “Do you know who I am?”
Tope said. “No ma”
My mom sad. “I am a Judge in Lagos. I can make life very complicated for you if you try to destroy what I have spent almost all the years of my life to build.”
Next thing Junior walked into the sitting room and cried out. “mummy, mummy…” He stood still as he saw the crowed.
My mom saw him and said. “Oh my God, Thomas!!” As she held my hand tight.
There was silence for a minute. Then my mom said. “The deed has been done, but if you truly love my son you will have to let him go. I was very angry but now I don’t have to show it because of him. He is innocent and does not have to suffer from your recklessness. I will make arrangements for you 2 to relocate to the UK. That is were you will spend the rest of your lives. You will have to get your educational documents and necessary documents for that effect. Tomorrow, you will leave for Abuja and you both will stay there till your visas are ready.”
Tope was just sobbing and didn’t utter a word. My mom then said. “My personal assistant will come tomorrow morning to facilitate the arrangements. This is the best I can do not for you, but for him. Thomas, you have 2 minutes, I will be waiting in the car.”
She left for the car and I stood there looking at Tope. I then said. “I fought for us Tope and now see what it has led? I don’t think I will ever see you again. Good bye Tope.” I then looked at Junior, I carried him one last time, kissed his cheek and blessed him. I dropped him down and headed to the car.
We got home and no word was uttered between my mom and I. The following morning I went to work and resumed my life the way it was before I went to see Tope at Kogi. I knew I would learn to love Ella but I can’t love her the way I loved Tope. But I later came to understand that what transpired between Tope and I was lust, lust was the basis of our friendship and what reshaped our destinies. Love builds but lust destroys.
Tope lives happily in London, she got enrolled in the university and she’s almost done. Junior is almost done with his primary education, he loves football and likes to play drums. Ella and I are happily married and we have a daughter, she’s 2 years and she looks a whole lot like my mom. Tope and I still communicate once in a while. She still vows to wait for me no matter how long it takes. I know what happened was a mistake and it still remains a secret but for how long?

Hummmmmmm..i am speechless,guys oya ur contributions pls.
THE END….

After my service year had ended, I decided to stay back for a week so as to bid farewell to Tope. I knew everything we had was going to end as soon as I departed from Kogi state, and she knew that too.

She couldn’t help but cry all through the last few days I spent with her. I felt for her, I was moved but I couldn’t change what fate had put before us.

The day I was leaving, she saw me off to the garage. As I waited for the vehicle to be filled, she was sobbing inordinately, her face covered in tears and her nose licking…. It was a sorry sight, I hugged her close and she cried out loud. “Noo…My life! My life! Oh God why?”
I said to her. “Tope it’s okay baby, I will miss you dearly.”

She then said. “What will I do now? Where will I start from? I cannot love anybody again. oh God please…”

I was able to calm her down and she stopped sobbing. We had already created a scene and people were beginning to say things. I then said to her. “Tope, please I need you to have this money, it is N12,000 get a good phone so we can keep in touch.”
She said. “Of what good will it be Thomas? When I know I cannot have you forever.

I then said. “Please Tope, I just need to know how you are faring, to know if I can help you with anything, to hear your sweet voice again. Please Tope it means a lot to me.”

She took the money and she started sobbing again and she said. “Good bye Thomas, good bye…” As she ran away in tears.

I stood and watched her fade away in sight. I had tears in my eyes and felt an emptiness within. The vehicle got filled and I embarked on my journey to Lagos. As I journeyed I reflected on the sweet moments Tope and I shared. I then realized they were the best times of my life and I felt privileged to have had such memories.

I got home and met my family, everyone was happy to see me again. I sure did miss home and all the comforts, but nothing compared to Tope, whom I missed dearly. I knew I would probably not see her again and everything we had would only linger in thoughts till they grow dim with time.

A week passed and I didn’t hear from Tope, as I suspected. I knew she must have taken the decision to stay aloof, it must have been very hard on her. I had no option than to move on and face the reality before me.

Through my mom’s connection, I was able to secure a very profitable job in one of the biggest oil companies in Nigeria, in just 3 weeks after my youth service. The company made arrangements for me to travel to the U.S for a 10 months managerial course. I only wished I could tell the good news to Tope, but there was no means, she didn’t have a phone, she wasn’t on social media and not even an email account,
Few days later I traveled to Texas, U.S. It was a wonderful learning experience and I was well taken care of.

I met people from different parts of the world and I had a great time. At the end of the exercise, I returned back to Nigeria and the following day I was assigned to the position of an assistant manager. I had my own office and desk, it was too good to be true. My salary was wow!! My life was beautiful.

After 3 months of working I was able to acquire a brand new car. I could afford any luxury that I wanted. My fashion changed, I got lots of cool natives and suits, expensive wrist watches, perfumes… I didn’t know how to spend my money, every month it kept on growing in numbers and since I wasn’t really an out going type with only few friends I had a huge savings.

A former course mate at the University was having a wedding. I was invited and I felt it was a very good opportunity for me to meet up with good old friends. I came late for the church wedding so I took a back seat and shortly after the church ceremony ended and we all dispersed to the reception not too far away.

At the reception I took a secluded seat. I never really liked to mingle and I decided to just observe from a distance. I saw lots of old faces that made me smile. It was really good seeing their happy faces again. But a face I would never forget was Ella’s. I had a major crush on Ella for 2 sessions and a semester, until she and Osas started dating shortly before we all graduated. Ella never reciprocated the feelings and it was difficult to open up to her.

She’s a beautiful fair skinned lady and very decent. She was into crafts: She made beads, shoes, bags and cloths. She carved out a name for herself on campus.

I was so pleased to see everyone smiling and having a good time. I was busy with my phone and next thing, I looked up and I saw Ella coming my way. My heart beat began to accelerate faster as she approached me. She had a smile on and I knew I was in trouble. She pulled out a seat on my table and sat down, she then said. “Look who we have here… Mr Loner. You haven’t really changed have you?”

I said. “Hi Ella, so good to see you.”
She then said. “Thomas, o Thomas. The guy I liked so much but never had the balls to walk up to me.”

I said. “Wait…You don’t mean it.”
She said. “You never knew I liked you? Why did you think I was always in your class hanging with Chioma?”

I then said. “Oh my God… But you ended up dating Osas now?”
She then said. “You are pathetic Thomas. If you knew how long I came around your class hoping you would act. You know, I knew you have always been serious minded, focused and very dedicated. You were not just man enough.”

I then said to her. “Are you still with Osas?”
She said. “Osas and I broke up during service year, he wasn’t serious at all.”

I the said. “Is it too late, Ella?”
She laughed and shook her head. “Thomas, you are still pathetic. You haven’t changed but it’s still cute though.”
I then asked her. “How about your craft business?”

She said. “It’s doing well, I use my house for now but I really need a place because sometimes I get large orders and no space to work. I am thinking of getting a job so I can save up to get a place for my business.”
I then said. “Okay…. Ella, I know I messed up in the past. I am sorry about that, I was very shy and immature. I have really changed, trust me on this. I have always admired you, always patronize your crafts even though I never needed them. If there’s nobody you are seeing, please consider me. I am begging you.”

She then said. “Aww… How sweet. you know what? Let me have your number. Meanwhile, lets go meet up with our friends over there.”

I then gave her my business card and she was like. “Wow!! Thomas, you here. I have always known you were special.”
After the reception, I dropped her home and when I got home I called her and we spent over an hour talking on the phone. We kept on talking for long over the week and the prospect of Ella and I starting a relationship grew by the day. We decided to fix a date the following weekend and we chose Saturday.

So on that day we went to a nice restaurant to have lunch.
We cracked school jokes and talked about old times… It was a wonderful moment. I then asked her. “Ella about your business. How much will it cost you to relocate and restructure your business?”

She said. “Well, it will cost me N350,000.”
I then reached out to my small bag and brought out my cheque book. Then she said. “Thomas…What do you think you are doing?”

I told her. “I am writing you a cheque of N350,000″
She then said. “I can’t take it, I am sorry, I just can’t take it.”
I said. “Its a loan, you can pay me when you ready to.”

She said. “How much interest?”
I then said. “N1 ”
she lauded, hugged me and that was it.
I really wanted to do something very important in her life, so she would know that I was very concerned about her future. When I got home my mom called. She wanted to know my next move.

Obviously marriage, I told her about Ella and she wanted to see her the following weekend. I then told Ella if she would like to pay my home a visit and meet my family. She delightfully welcomed it.

She came over and my mom really liked her. They talked for over an hour and I even felt left out. It was a good thing. She had lunch with us and she also helped in washing the dishes, my mom was so proud of her, even though it was their first meeting.
After I had dropped Ella off at her place I got back home and my mom called me. She said. “Ella is a good lady, she will make an awesome wife.

She’s creative, she’s got her own business, she’s going to have time to run and maintain her home, have time for the kids. I mean what else do you need?”

I said. “I know Ella is wonderful.”
She then said. “When are you proposing to her? you better do it soon. before someone else does.”

I then said. “Well, we will be traveling to Calabar in 3 weeks, for her friends wedding. I think that when I will do it.”

My mom said. “Good make sure you do your thing.”

Ella and I became so close, I went to see her family and they gave me a warm welcome, her siblings were so friendly….. Things were getting more and more interesting.

We travelled to Calabar for the wedding. I had with me the engagement ring and I was praying she would say yes, a part of me was sure… She decided we stay in different hotel rooms because she told me she was still a virgin that she needed to keep till that special night, I felt so lucky…

After the church ceremony at the reception, I gave someone my phone to make sure he captured the moment. I then called Ella’s attention. “Ella.” As I knelt down with the ring.
She said. “Oh my God…”
I then asked. “Will you marry me?”
She covered her eyes and screamed. “Yes!! I will.”
To my surprise, people around were clapping and that made me very uncomfortable. After the event we headed back to our hotel rooms and I called my mom telling her the good news.

My mom was really glad.
That night, I went on Facebook to post the proposal picture. I noticed I had several unread mails so I took my time to read them. There was one mail that took my attention the most. The sender didn’t have a profile picture so I went ahead to read the mail.
It said. “Please are you the Thomas that served in Kogi over a year ago? please call this number ********** Tope.”

I felt very disturbed and I called the number immediately. Unfortunately the phone was switched off. I checked when the message was sent and it was about 4 months ago.
I got back to Lagos and kept on trying the number with no success. On wednesday morning it rang. I waited to hear the voice and it was Tope’s. I then said. “Oh Jesus, Tope I just saw your mail are you okay?”

She began to sob. “Thomas, my Thomas please come and help me. I need your help now more than ever….”

I then said. “I don’t get you Tope is everything alright?”
She said. “Nothing is alright, please come I need your help.”

I the said to her. “I work now, I won’t be chanced to travel.”

She then said. “How about saturday it’s very important.”
The line then went off.
Memories of Tope came back, I was confused and very bothered about her situation. I kept on calling but the phone was switched off. I then sent a text message to her. telling her I would be coming on saturday, but will leave on sunday morning because I had to prepare to travel to Port Hacourt on wednesday on an official assignment.

She responded the following day with the address and her location.
I had made arrangements with a driver to take me there with my car and I told Ella I was going on a business meeting at Abuja. I left very early in the morning and I got there around 11:30am. The location was a church far inside the town, it wasn’t easy locating it. I saw Tope by the gate of the church, standing. She looked pale and mucky, she had lost weight and she looked very unpleasing and troubled. I came down from the car and she ran towards me.

She embraced me and said. “Oh Thomas….” As she wept deeply.
I held her back by her shoulders and said. “Tope…Please talk to me what is wrong?”

She then said. “Come to the church with me and you will know everything.”

To be continued

My name is Thomas Ochagla. There’s a saying. “What can’t kill you can make you happy stronger.” But the truth is action speaks louder than mere words. I don’t know how strong I will be coming out from this predicament that I have found myself.

This all started about 2 years ago in my youth service year in Kogi state. There was this very good canteen not too far from Yagba east local government council, where I frequent often for my CDS.

It was the aroma that lured me to the place, the savory of scented stew and fried meat, it was irresistible, I couldn’t just evade myself from the luscious captivity that overwhelmed me.

Perhaps, a simple restrain would have changed history, would have saved me from all these.

As I entered the canteen, I grabbed a plate and stood on the queue salivating and waiting for my turn. When it got to my turn, before me was something more compelling than the meal that I expected. My eyes got locked in contact with the young lady who was serving the meal.

She was beautiful beyond expression, I could hardly compose myself and it took me some few seconds to reboot. She then asked. “What food do you want sir?” In fluent English.
I stuttered. “Give me….. rice N50, dodo N50 and 3 pieces of meat.”
I was going to pay and she refused to collect the money. I didn’t understand the kind gesture, I then insisted and she smiled at me and said. “It’s okay, it’s on me.” I then took a seat and started eating.
While I was eating, I noticed her looking at me at some instance.

It drove my curiosity wild and I was eager to know her. She sounded quite polished and she looked more dignified than running a local canteen, I knew there was more to it. As I was done, I went to meet her and said to her. “Thank you very much. My name is Thomas. can I know your name?”

She giggled and said. “My name is Tope.” As we both smiled at each other like teens gripped in some high school crush.
So I left the place hoping to return the following day. I got to my rented room and I was still thinking of Tope. She was average height, dark skinned and very attractive. Her curves were at the right angle and her bursts were an eye candy. I knew I needed companion to quench my lust while I served my country in the beautiful state of Kogi and Tope just happened to fit into the picture.
Being a nerd and a slacker isn’t a thing to be proud of. I had only had sex once, thanks to Seun who took me clubbing then some chic agreed to get down with me and at the end made me pay N4,000…That wasn’t funny. I felt I needed to lay claim of my very own pet, a decision I soon regret.

The following day I went to the canteen, but this time around I went there late. Unfortunately food had finished, but the good thing was that Tope had time to spare. She was busy preparing to wash the dishes and I didn’t hesitate to assist her. She didn’t want me to get my hands dirty but I insisted. I helped her in getting water and she was thrilled that a corper would stoop so low helping her with the dishes. Well, why wouldn’t I, it granted me the avenue to view her heavy kegs that jiggled as she was washing the dishes.

Suddenly her mother appeared from a distance, Tope sighted her and she said to me. “Please hide, don’t let her see you.”

I then hid behind the canteen and after about 15 minutes she left the place. Tope then came to meet me and said. “Sorry about it.”
I then said. “Its’s okay, no sweat. Your mom is strict right?”

She said. “No she’s not. I am preparing for JAMB exams and seeing me with a guy would upset her.”
I then said to her. “Then why are you here working in the canteen? You should be attending lessons now.”
She said. “My elder sister is not feeling too fine and she’s the one in charge of the canteen. Yesterday was my first day here.”
I asked her. “What course do you intend to study?”
She said. “Biochemistry.”
I said to her. “I finished with a first class in Chemical Engineering. if you need any assistance I will be glad to help you.”
She said. “Wow, that will be nice. I have a problem with chemistry and physics. You must be a genius.”

I laughed and said. “No I am not, I just love to read my books a lot. It takes hard work and persistence to be successful. My dad is a Professor and my mom is a Judge, they really encouraged me.”
We finished cleaning up and I decided to walk her home which she agreed. As we walked, we talked about our families and she opened up about the challenges she faced gaining admission, being the only child among-st her sibbllings privileged to attend higher institution. I was so bent in making her pass her JAMB and I promised her I would teach her through.

I convinced her to tell her mom she needed to prepare for her exams and that she won’t be able to continue with the running of the canteen. The mom eventually succumbed and she got a replacement. I made an arrangement with Tope, for her to be coming to my place 4:00pm Mondays to Fridays and 1:000pm on Saturdays, which she agreed. My intentions were sincere, but with a little thoughts of side attractions. In spite of being attracted to her, I wanted her more than anything to pass her JAMB exams this time around.
Her first day at my place was an amazing one. She brought me rice, dodo and 3 pieces of meat. I was really touched and I felt she truly cared for me. The most enthralling thing she did again was, she washed all my dirty clothes, including my boxers… And she swept my room and arranged my stuffs. No lady had done such to me except my mom. I was moved by that and felt more obliged to her. We couldn’t do any reading that day. So I walked her home around 6:30pm.
I got to my room and it looked quite different.

Neat and very organized. I laid on my neatly made bed
and I thought to myself. “Is it possible something real can happen between Tope and I….” But I considered the years she would spend in the University and all.
She came the following day… This time she wore a fitted gown. I Knew I was going to be in trouble if I seldom caution myself.

I then told her to list out the most difficult topics she was facing. I put her through and she was quite intelligent in grasping, I was really impressed by her keen interest in understanding. After studying she then looked at me and said. “How is your girlfriend?”
I laughed and said. “Tope I don’t have a girlfriend.”
She said. “I don’t believe you.”
I then said to her. “Tope, I am not lying to you. Girls don’t find me attractive, it’s not that I am good looking. Even while in school, I never had the chance to date any girl I admired.”

She said. “Thomas, I know you are special. I saw it in your eyes the first time we met at my mom’s canteen. You are special man.”
I was moved by what she said. No lady had ever said that thing to me before. I began to feel for her and that was when I started to really care for her. She looked at my feet and said. “Aaah.. Thomas. Look at your toe nails. Don’t you cut them?”
I felt a bit embarrassed and said. “No now… They are hard and my nail cutter is missing. I will get another one in town.”
She then said. “Do you have a razor blade? Let me help you cut it.”
I said. “No oo.. Please I don’t like using razor on me, it could cut me.”
She then said. “Trust me.”
I got her the razor blade and she meticulously cut my toe nails neatly. She then took a napkin soaked it with water and she cleaned my feet. No lady had shown me much compassion and care.

Immediately I erased the lustful thoughts I had on her and I decided to do everything to make her succeed in her JAMB exams.
Our friendship grew and I found out how remarkable she was. I began to love her but I fought really hard not to reveal it to her. I respected her and I knew she was a good lady and I didn’t want to start something I couldn’t finish. I was aware we both had feelings for each other, but I was afraid it will lead to nowhere and also I didn’t want to make a promise I couldn’t fulfill. It was a tough decision for me, cause I had to fight every temptation that came my way.

She was really improving in her preparations towards her examination. She was able to solve all the difficult problems she once faced and I was proud she was making a headway. The JAMB exams came and she smashed it. She scored 250 and I bought her a wrist watch for doing so good.

It was friday night around 9:30pm. I heard a knock on the door and it was Tope. I was really surprised seeing her there and I said to her. “Why are you out this late?”
She said. “I told my mom I was going for Vigil.”
I then said. “Come in, you lied to your mom abi?”
She couldn’t answer me.
I made her noodles and she ate. We both laid down on the bed, I knew what I feared the most was revealing its head. I had just my boxers on and I don’t like sleeping with much clothes on. She then said. “Do you have water in the bathroom, I want to shower.”

I then knew that night was going to be an intriguing one. I said. “Yes there’s water in the bathroom. You can use this towel it’s clean.”

She took the towel and went into the bathroom. I didn’t have condoms with me and it was late to get one. After about 15 minutes she then came out from the bathroom wrapped in my towel. She then put off the light switch and laid beside me. She apparently didn’t have any clothes on.

About 10 minutes passed and no move was made. She then rested her head on my chest and put her left laps on my leg. And I thought to myself. “If we spend the night like this it won’t be bad.”

I then put my left hand on her left shoulder and began to fondle her shoulder a bit, I wanted her and I didn’t want her at the same time. I couldn’t think of what to say to her than. “Tope I love you too.” It escaped me quickly before my thoughts. I was letting my heart speak not my head. I damned the consequences ……

She said. “My friend Bimpe got deflowered last week by a guy that never truly loved her. She gave it to him because she wanted him to stay. But I gave it to you because you are truly caring, loving and supporting. I have written JAMB exams 4 times and because of you I made it this time. My life would have be noting without you.”
I said to her. “Tope, I truly care about you. But don’t you think that was too extreme?”

She said. “It had to be you. It would have been with a guy that doesn’t deserve it. We have known each other for 3 months and you never asked for it. I have no regrets Thomas. Even though we don’t end up together.”
I then said. “You are sweet girl Tope.”
She said. “One more thing.”
I said. “What?”
I knew in my heart that if her circumstances was a bit better I would vow to marry her against all odds. I loved her…………
PART TWO CONTINUES SOON

Good Morning sir,

I have been trying to reach you for so long. I am so glad to be able to communicate with you.

I need your advice and that of the good people of d single. My sister is actually the one who needs help. My family have been praying for her and her husband for a long time. We are so worried.

So,my sister and her husband have been married for 5 years. Before they got married,they dated and courted for 11 years.

Right from secondary school to University. They were love birds. Everyone knew they were going to end up getting married. My family took her husband in 16 years ago when he had nothing.

We supported him cos he treated my sister right. Many times,my mother would package food stuff for my sister to give him when they were in the university. When his father passed on,my family cooked and participated in the burial very much.Even before they were married,everyone was already calling them husband and wife.

My sister supported him when he could not get a good job after youth service. They got married and a year later,things began to change for the better for him. He got a big job and life took a very different turn for good. They moved into a bigger house,bought cars,lands,etc.

By then,my sister had given birth to her first set of children:twins. Everything was ok. Until 3 years ago. All of a sudden,there was a fraud in my sister’s husband’s company. And he was implicated. The matter was taken to EFCC. And like that,my sister spent money upon money on court case.

He was held in custody all these while too. So,it was not easy for my sister and the family at large. We spent so much money. My sister had to sell the cars,remaining only one. She moved back to our house as she could not meet up with her house rent.My brother in-law spent almost 3 years in custody before he was released.

By this time,things were very hard for them. He and my sister were able only to get a room self contained to move in to, January this year. My family kept on supporting them. But his mother,who is a C & S member kept going for prayers. It was during the prayers that one prophet revealed that the cause of her son’s downfall is his wife:my sister.

That my brother in-law will never prosper because my sister and my family want him to remain under them forever,to be serving them. That any man that marries into my family will serve them. That my father had to escape (my parents divorced a long time ago…but it was due to his family pressure that did not like my mother)…for his destiny not to be destroyed.

Since that time,my sister’s husband has been giving everyone attitude. He does not talk to my sister. He does not talk to any of us. He started keeping late night. Infact,things are so bad. My sister has been crying so much.

After all we have done for this man,he now thinks we are behind his downfall. We decided to stay away but my sister is suffering. They cannot feed and the man is not even caring.

He has not told my sister that he wants a divorce but since January they have been living like divorced couple. Recently,someone gave him N1.5M to go and start a business. Do you know that we just found out that this man is planning to go and give a prophet this money to conduct deliverance prayers for his house to be cleansed of the spirit that is coming from my family to destroy him?

When my sister found out,she opposed it and he accused her of being the one trying to pin him down forever. How can a man who cannot feed his family go and give a prophet N1.5M to conduct deliverance?

Which kind of deliverance? From a family that supported him throughout secondary school and university?

Me,I am tired…I feel bad,betrayed by this man. I feel bad for my sister. Please Mr. Abraham help us, the person who introduced me to you told me alot of good things about you.

I believe God can use you to help us. can u pls kindly advice on what to do…we have prayed and we are tired.

It was my wedding night. I was so tired, I needed a bath and a rest. We had danced so much my back was aching.

My husband was beginning to have funny ideas. He was beaming like a new born baby.

Well, I wouldn’t blame him; any man in his position would not joke with this night because I was a warrior during our courtship”.

No… no hugging, no pecking, no holding, no touching, no tapping current, no weather for two, Sexual purity till my marriage was top on my list.

The Knock came. I was thinking, half past eleven (11:30pm). Is that room service, I wondered. Then, with eyes popping. I heard my mother in-law’s iron like voice: “Tise, Micheal, open the door”. Micheal jumped up from the bed, rushed to the door and opened it for his mum. My Mother in-law walked in, sat down majestically and asked us to sit down too.

“Tise, I don’t know if anyone ever told you? There is a curse on my husband’s family line.

The men in their family don’t prosper, their wives are the ones who work, and provide for the families.

This is because, according to the story that I was told, one of their forefathers killed the only son of a great herbalist and the herbalist placed a curse on every son in their lineage, that their hands will never produce nor bring forth anything goo also, their sons must always lose a son amongst their children”

I watched in amazement as my mother in-law kept telling the story. Then, she concluded by saying: “In essence, I have just come to let you know that your marriage is not a land of funs but of war”

Why? Why didn’t she tell me this before now?

Well, in order not to waste her time, I also gave her my history. I said,

“Mum, I am sorry, I also did not tell you this before now. I came from a family that fights for those we love. My Father (Jesus Christ) actually died while trying to save His people. My family line does not operate under curses because we are operating under a covenant of blessings – John 1:12-13. Therefore, anyone who is fortunate to marry any one in my family becomes automatically BLESSED! So mum, for my sake, your son can not operate under those curses again”.

My mother in-law was shocked, to say the least, as I could tell what she was thinking. Then, it made sense to me.

My Sisters in-law always had this gloomy look on their faces and the two of them actually lost their sons.

“Mum, you need to go and rest. My husband and I need to produce two sons this night because in my family line we conceive immediately our husbands meet Us”, I concluded.

My mother in-law stood up with caution and silently walked out.

At that moment, all the tiredness vanished as I took Michael’s hands and looked him straight in the eye.

“Listen, I don’t care what you or your ancestors have done, but for my sake, you will prosper with these hands”, I said.

Listen, Paul and some criminals were on a ship and there was a shipwreck.

The soldiers wanted to kill all the criminals to prevent them from escaping, but the Army Officer stopped them for the sake of saving Apostle Paul.

Michael, for Paul’s sake, the lives of other criminals were preserved. “So Sweetheart, because you are married to me, because we are in the same ship, yes, this relationship called marriage, for my sake, you cannot be punished for your ancestors’ Sins”, I assured him.

That became my prayer plea to God from that day forward. I kept praying to God to save my husband, my sons for my sake.

To the Glory of God, I have 4 sons none of them died. Now, they have sons and daughters of their own.

For my sake, my husband’s destiny changed for the best.

You see, women are always great assets to change powers; not assets for sex only.
It doesn’t matter what challenge that man of yours is facing at this point in time with you on his side praying, ancestral curses will flew out of his life.

Women are destined for that; good women are a great blessing to the men.

When a good woman comes into a man’s life, many good doors of success, prosperity, joy, love, etc open & ancestral curses break down & disappear.

Good women diffuse ancestral curses like a diffused bomb.

Woman, always pray for your man (husband) friend; your prayer works for him; your prayer can save his life from shame …
Your prayer can set him free from bondage.

God bless you 🙏 copied

What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don’t buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function.

But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone.

Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I’m not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.

How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I’ll cough out 29k in this Baba’s economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o.

Why are our people like this?

Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral comes up first weekend in October.

Dear …..,

I am newly married. I dated my husband for almost 2 years. Before I met my husband, I was in a brief affair with my boss at the office. I regret that affair till date. So,I try to block it from my mind. I try not to think about it.

Maybe that is why I did not mention it to my husband when we were dating. Unfortunately,that has come to bite me. I still don’t know how my husband found out. I have been telling him to tell me but he says its not relevant.

Apparently,someone told my husband that I had something with my boss. He asked me about it and I could not deny it. I told him it was before I met him and I regret it that is why I never brought it up to him.

My husband was very upset. He said I should have told him cos I just made him look like a fool. My boss was at our wedding,if he knew,he would not have allowed that. I told him I am sorry,I been begging him since. Now,my husband said I have to quit the job. That the only way he will believe that I am truly over my boss is if I quit.

My husband wants me to be a stay at home wife now. He said he never trusts women who work and the fact that even me have had a history with my boss,that its proof that women should not work.

I told him he is being too extreme and he said I should choose either between our marriage or my job. I know he is upset but asking me to quit my job over an affair that happened over three years ago is just childish. He is simply over reacting. I cannot also be a stay at home wife. My parents did not send me to school to be a house wife.

To make matters worse,he is now giving me attitude. He has asked me to turn in my resignation before the end of the month. Much as I love my husband and will do anything to keep my marriage,I am beginning to fear that he has such a jealous spirit and will do anything when he feels jealous.

Sorry to say,my job pays way better than his. We both rely heavily on my salary. I tried to reason with him that perhaps I should ask for a transfer,maybe to a different branch from my current boss.He refused out rightly. Saying he cannot ever trust me if I insist on working in this company.

I am confused and don’t know what to do. I have called our family members to try to speak to him but he has maintained that is his stand…either I quit and stay at home or the marriage is over. Please advice me.

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